I Didn't Know It Was Wrong... until now
FOXNews.com ran a quick snippet of a UK marriage which was annulled after two (obviously fraternal) twins which had been separated at birth managed to meet, fall in love and get married. Not only does this qualify for the "eww! ick!" category, it raises some interesting questions. If God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) what about this? After all it's an abomination to have sexual relations with a close relative (Leviticus 18:6-9, 24-28). As soon as this unhappy couple discovered (no news on how that revelation came about) that they were bro and sis they separated.
I'm not laboring under the presupposition that these folks have committed some unpardonable sin. In fact I would say they have acted righteously by taking corrective action as soon as they became aware of their blood relationship.
This of course leads to a personal question: what happens when you suddenly become aware that you've been sinning? When you see your right hand offends, do you cut it off? Leviticus 4:13-14 indicates that God expects corrective action as soon as we become aware of sin. In that context it's the whole community but the principle remains and is alluded to elsewhere in Leviticus. Holiness matters to God. When we discover that we've broken that expectation it is time to take corrective action.
God expects two responses from us when we discover we've broken his law. Repentance and confession.
Repentance requires changing. In the above example it means separating from a sinful relationship. I've never had to talk to anyone in this particular situation but it's no stretch in today's world to have to talk to people who aren't married but who are involved sexually. Repentance means moving out, and stopping the sexual relationship. A thief must stop stealing and start contributing (Eph 4:28). Repentance. Without repentance there is no forgiveness.
Second God expects confession. Confession in the strictest sense means agreeing with God. Now honestly I find it a little hard to draw a line between repentance and confession, in my eyes they are two sides of the same coin. I don't see how you can have one without the other. Agreeing with God that stealing (even office supplies) is a sin against him and stopping the stealing leads to God's forgiveness.
Old testament saints expected to make a blood offering for forgiveness when they discovered their guilt. God in his grace has provided the final and most complete offering in Jesus Christ. The death of Jesus Christ fulfills one of the most fundamental "rules" of holiness. ALL sin caries the death penalty. Someone has to die for sin. By rights that means I am supposed to die for my own sin. But God also permits a substitution to take place.
In the Levitical sacrifice system when someone brought a sin offering of a lamb (or any other animal) they would lay their hands on it as a means of symbolically saying, "I deserve to die and I am transfering my guilt to this animal." Whereupon the animal was slain and atonement or a covering over of the sin was made.
But the multiple millions of animal sacrifices over the years was incapable of completely removing sin. What it did however was to foreshadow what God was planning to do, and ultimately did in Jesus Christ. When God's son Jesus died on a Roman cross he was innocent of any sin at all. But God made it so that the death of innocent Jesus could become a substitute for guilty me and you.
This is what is meant by "coming to Jesus' It means turning away from your own sin, confessing them to God and accepting from God the sacrifice of Jesus in place of your own death for sin. It is the miracle of what Theologians call the "substitutionary atonement".
Let today be the day of new beginning. If there is sin in your life, cut it out. Confess it and by simply believing - accept the sacrifice of Christ in the place of your own death.


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Divorce
Hey there TCB,
You're right, God does hate divorce. It's an abomination to Him because it breaks a picture (or type of Christ) [ref. to Eph. 5]. But this doesn't mean that it's absolutely forbidden, but rather sometimes commanded.
When Ezra returned to the Promised Land, he found Levites who had married pagan wives. They were commanded to "put them away" [Ezra 10]. Why? Because they had defiled their office and had broken God's Word!
In Mark 10:12, Jesus Himself says
Mark 10:12
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
That word "committeth" is a Present Tense Verb. This is also repeated by our Lord in Matthew 5:32. If a Christian divorces their spouse (except for the reason of fornication) and marries another, IS COMMITTING adultery! They MUST divorce, because God commands all sinners to repent [Luke 13:3; Acts 8:22].
Some might say, "but this is wrong!" They will quote Matt. 19:6 which reads,
Matthew 19:6
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
They sadly neglect to realize that God is NOT in the business of adultery. Since God definitely did not bring these people together, this abomination must be destroyed!
Divorce is horrible. So is killing. But both are sometimes required to honor God.
From the Study of:
John Calvin Hall
Twin Falls, Idaho
Aren't we supposed to stay where we are when we became christian
I thought Paul said stay where you are.
What happens if a divorced christian remarries and repents? What action is required? What if there are kids? What if it's a 20 year old marriage? It's a different scenario, but related.
This stuff is all very complicated to me.
And this is why God hates Divorce
And this is why God hates divorce.
We are so myopic when it comes to our own sins. We don't realize the impact they have on our friends and family.
Question for you now, what should a Christian do if they had an affair with another who was not their spouse, and they had a baby? Should that Christian divorce their spouse only to care for that baby?
The answer would be a loud, NO! Though they would have a moral responsibility to provide for that child.
We have a culturally twisted concept that once some judge or magistrate signs a divorce paper, the divorce is legitimate in the eyes of God. No, No, No, No, NO! Does a lower court have the authority to enact a law that supersedes a higher court ruling? No. Same here.
Does God recognize divorce?
1. If the other spouse had committed adultery.
2. If the other spouse (who is unsaved) leaves the Christian spouse.
Notice what I Cor. 7:10-11 says,
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
This passage goes for both husband and wife. If the one wishes to depart (divorce) their spouse, then let them depart. BUT if they want to remarry, they are commanded to return to their spouse! Why does God say this? I thought they were divorced!
When they were married, they became one flesh. This is why God's Word says in Mark 10:12 and Matthew 5:32 that the offending spouse is committing adultery. You cannot commit adultery if you don't have a spouse, you would be committing fornication.
I know several men in our church, whose wives fell in love with another man, divorced them and married their adulterous partners. These men have every right to remarry before God, and one of them has. Those adulterous women are living in sin. They have no fellowship with Christ (I John 1:6; Psalm 66:18) and are walking in darkness until they repent. They can have their fellowship with Christ restored, but their actions have condemned them to a life alone.
There is also one man in our church who is taking this matter very seriously. His wife felt she would be happier with his former best friend. She divorced him, and is now living with her new lover. What is this brother in Christ doing? I asked him. He told me that he remembers many times where he had committed spiritual adultery against Christ, and his savior did not give up on him. Now, he is loving his wife as Christ loved him. He is on his face constantly praying for his wife, pleading that God would do whatever is necessary to restore her to her savior. This guy is flying in the face of what the world says is impossible and he is trusting in God! Please, pray for this family! He is needing a miracle!
From the Study of:
John Calvin Hall
Twin Falls, Idaho
John, I can sympathize with
John,
I can sympathize with the man in the last example you gave. I was a church planter and my wife left me. She was involved with another man and ultimately married someone else.
I have not remarried even though I believe God allows me to. Once she remarried, she committed adultery. Thus, I have proper grounds for divorce.
Until she remarried I prayed that God would restore our marriage. She did not respond to me. I struggled for years trying to reconcile how God says that he hates divorce and yet, for reasons known to God alone, my marriage was not restored.
Even though my former wife sinned by divorcing me, she has remarried. Her obligation to God now is to remain faithful to that marriage.
Bill
Obligations to God's Word
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Bill,
I am truly sorry for the grief that you have gone through. But as a Christian, I must supersede everything, no matter what my personal emotions would prefer, with the very Word of God.
1. God's Word is clear. Mark 10:12 (as well as Matthew 5:32) claims that your wife is living in adultery.
2. God's Word is also clear, unrepentant adulterers have no inheritance in the Kingdom of God (I Corinthians 6:9-10).
Do we take the Holy Writ of God so lightly as to think that God doesn't mean what He says?
Do we poo-poo it off as just a dirty little hang-up we have in our society and culture, and ignore that hell is for all eternity?
I'm sorry to have to say this, but you're mistaken. Your wife's obligation is not to remain faithful in an adulterous relationship. Her obligation is obedience to the Word of God.
Bill, I know what you're going through. Remember that person I last wrote about?
That person was me.
This page really hit home.
This page really hit home. I really, really identify and agree with what has been written here. My ex-wife, who claimed/claims to be a Christian left and has been living in sin with several young men after divorcing me almost 2 years ago and really neglecting her duties of being a mother to our three kids.
I believe Biblically, the Bible says I could remarry because I think she left me as a non-believer due to her lifestyle and she has committed adultery. However, I find myself praying for a miracle, praying that God will somehow reach her and she will turn to him, and through that experience-our marriage and family can be restored as well. I know that the likelihood of that is very slim becuase it is up to my ex's free will, but I am praying for what I believe God's will to be and trusting in Him.
I must admit, there are times when I have to fight anger and bitterness due to what's happened, what continues to happen, and extenuating circumstances-especially when involving the kids, but I continue to pray and believe for a miracle.